Nerves can run high when love is in the air.
What do the experts suggest to stay calm and bask in the spotlight?
Have everything ready to go at least one week prior – a precise schedule of the day’s events including what time wedding party members should arrive at the church, a practice session applying your new makeup shades, an emergency kit with essentials (needle, thread, pantyhose, makeup, aspirin, tampons, contact lens solution, telephone numbers to reach all of your wedding vendors). Don’t wait until the last minute to get anything waxed, plucked, colored, permed or straightened.
Delegate! Bridesmaids aren’t just eye candy. Make them earn that poufy dress. Traditionally, it’s the maid of honor’s job to act as the bride’s right arm. She should make sure the bride gets to bed early the night before, drinks plenty of water all day so she doesn’t dehydrate, and help the bride slip her into her gown. Don’t forget — one of the most important duties of the MOH is to make sure the bride eats a light breakfast to avoid nuptial nausea.
Brides spend so much time planning the perfect day that they often have trouble relaxing and letting go when it finally arrives. You’ve dreamed of this day for years, so enjoy it. Don’t micromanage every detail.
Trusting a wedding coordinator to handle the fine details can help the day run as smoothly as possible. They’re more affordable than you might think, especially when you consider the time they’ll save and the stress they’ll prevent. If a pro is out of your budget, ask a friend or relative to act as coordinator. It needs to be someone other than the bride’s mother so she can enjoy the day, as well.
The day wouldn’t be complete without one or two little mishaps. What if your flower girl’s little sister trots behind her, diligently picking up petals as fast as they fall? What if the best man drops your carats, sending guests hunting beneath pews? Or you both get the giggles? Enjoy it! Remind yourself these are the moments that will bring smiles to your grandkids’ faces someday, when they ask to hear the fairy tale story of your wedding day.
What’s the best way to conquer the jitters?
Apprehension turns to adoration with a simple solution that’s growing in popularity. When the couple is dressed and ready to go (but the guests haven’t begun to arrive), have someone park the groom in the chapel, while someone else fluff the bride’s train, and then instruct him to turn and greet his bride. Close the door, leaving the two to spend a few minutes together before the guests arrive.
This private time before the ceremony gives the couple a chance to calm their nerves, leaving them free to enjoy the day more deeply.
One memorable (and macho) groom resisted at first, but agreed to meet his bride before the ceremony. Following 10 minutes with his bride-to-be, he was unashamed of his tears. “It’s such a private moment. Why would I want to share that with 400 people?” he said.
Worried it’s bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the ceremony?
“It’s not about luck,” Macho Groom said, dabbing more tears. “It’s about faith.”